Monday, November 16, 2015

Restraining Your Complaining

“Do everything without whining or complaining." ~ Philippians 2:14
They gathered at the same table each day for lunch.  Perpetual complainers – you know the type, everything sucked and you couldn’t convince them otherwise.  They didn’t see themselves as negative people.  Rather they perceived themselves as forever being on the losing end of things; as drawing the short straw on a daily basis. 
Nan was the kind of person they hated - always in a good mood, always with something positive to say.  “If I were any better, I’d be triplets!” she’d reply when asked how she was doing.  
But not today.
Her headaches were now more frequent - almost constant, without relief.  Sleep came hard, sometimes unbearable.  In the last few weeks, she sensed her physical strength waning and her mood swings widening. 
She waited anxiously before the nurse finally motioned for her to follow.  Drowsy, confused, and unsteady, Nan knew before any diagnosis that something was seriously wrong.
The doctor called it a spinal arachnoid cyst.  The exact cause was unknown and extremely rare.  “Your tumor’s the size of a golf ball,” he explained somberly.  “But we don’t think it’s cancerous.”
Nan’s response surprised him.  “That’s great news!” she said.  To lighten the mood, she asked what the odds were that her cyst was actually the rogue Lego she’d shoved up your nose as a toddler.  He awkwardly explained in detail the implausibility of that.  Most neurosurgeons don’t get sarcasm. 
“The bad news is,” he interjected, “it’s inoperable.  It’s located in an area that makes surgical removal impossible.” 
“That’s even better news Doc,” Nan countered.  “I’m not big on brain surgery anyway!  Hospital scrubs, while comfortable, aren’t really designed for gals like me.  And head shaving - Ugh!”
“I’m afraid,” he continued, “that it’s very likely you’ll become paralyzed from the waist down within the next 12 months.”
That got her attention!  For a healthy 20-something woman, that news was definitely discouraging.  It could’ve ripped Nan’s heart right out.  But for her it was only a slight blemish on her otherwise positive spirit. 
Instead of hailing a cab for the long ride home, she decided to walk – to appreciate the movement in her legs.  Along the way she prayed for the complainers, that they could envision a God like her God.  One that in the face of despair, has the power to energize; the power to heal.  That in the face of anguish brings hope.
We all vent to get things off our chest occasionally.  But remember, if you have to complain about something to God, complain about the sin that keeps you from Him.  We can complain to God because He's big enough to take it.  And even then, we won't have to complain long, because He tells us that if we trust Him, things will always work out for the best.
Lord Jesus, All too often, my focus is on what I don’t have.  Please forgive me and help me to focus on and be grateful for what I do have.  Amen