Showing posts with label Forgiveness. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Forgiveness. Show all posts

Monday, August 25, 2025

Runaway

“Parents, don’t lose hope, your children will return to places of peace and safety.” ~ Jeremiah 31:17

Gwendolyn sat quietly on concrete steps that were damp from the morning rain. Her arms wrapped tightly around knocking knees, trying to summon energy for today’s mission.

She’d been hanging around this runaway teen shelter for five consecutive nights, in search of any news about her sixteen-year-old daughter. Unfortunately, shelters like this exist to help kids, not parents, so they couldn't tell Gwen if Melanie was, or had been, there.

If only. If only… they had done things differently!

Gwen’s family appeared to be "normal.” Their only daughter was involved in many activities and had a lot of friends. Without warning, Melanie was devastated by a double whammy when her parents divorced and her Mom decided to move them away from her Dad. The adults had become so polarized with each other that Melanie chose to live on her own.

So, nine months ago, she ran... scared, confused, angry, and disillusioned.

Now, both parents take turns searching under bridges, inside tunnels, near homeless shelters, and places frequented by whores and drug addicts for their child.

Today, Gwen’s search begins near Roosevelt Avenue, where the teen was last seen. “May I give you a flyer?" Gwen pleads with anyone who’ll listen. "We're looking for my teenage daughter, Melanie. This is her picture."

Most walk on by, a few nod horizontally after glancing at the photo. All have strong reactions, which blend both sorrow and distance – sad for a grieving mother, yet grateful it's not their child.

As nightfall claims the overhead skies, Gwen heads for home, every step lacking hope and resolve. Every glimmer of potential she felt earlier today has leaked away.

Like so many moms, Gwen struggles to accept that her child ran away. She fears what dangers young runaways like Melanie may face. Nearly 1 in 5 engage in “survival sex” – pimping themselves for a hot meal, a bed to sleep in, drugs, or money. Teenagers and young adults. Girls and boys.

If only… she had the chance to apologize for being selfish and insensitive. She torments herself for failing as a mother and silently begs for a chance to reunite.

Gwen desperately wants Melanie to know that she and her Dad both love her very much, that they miss her, that each will try harder, and that their doors remain open anytime.

As she pulled into the driveway, she noticed a light on in the family room. When she opened the door, her heart soared. Melanie lay asleep on the couch. She pulled a blanket from the closet and, feeling more love than she ever thought possible, placed it gently over her child.

She'd come home! Whatever forgiveness is, it entered their lives today," she thinks.

Heavenly Father, we know that no matter how far away our children run, You can always reach them. No matter how difficult the wayward child’s situation, I pray for your persuasive power to draw them close to You. Amen

Sunday, July 13, 2025

The Good Angel

 “Violent people have been trying to seize God’s earthly Kingdom forever." ~ Matthew 11:12

She was born the daughter of a poor Italian tenant farmer in 1890. When her father died nine years later, Maria was left to raise her five siblings while her mother worked the fields. As such, she never learned to read or write.

Her young life never seemed to pause. She also cooked, cleaned, and sewed for two next-door neighbors - Giovanni and his alcoholic son, Alessandro. Despite their extreme poverty, the family remained close and piously worshipped God.

During this time, Alessandro developed an impure liking for the beautiful 11-year-old with chestnut hair and delicate features. After months of crude taunting, the 20-year-old brute attempted to rape her.

Maria defended her God-given purity, screaming: "No! This is a sin; God doesn’t want this!"

Enraged, Alessandro stabbed her heart 11 times. When she attempted to flee, he stabbed her three more times in the back.

She survived for several hours after undergoing surgery without anesthesia. When asked if she forgave her attacker, she replied: "Yes, for the love of Jesus I forgive him... and I want him to be with me in Paradise." Reassured by the Church’s last sacraments, Maria died the next day from an infection brought on by her wounds.

Alessandro, a legal minor, was sentenced to thirty years. He remained unashamed for his actions until, during the eleventh year of his incarceration, Maria appeared before him in a dream. From his account, “She smiled at me and offered an armful of the lilies. When I took them, each lily transformed into a pure-white flame.” 

He awoke a changed man, begging God for forgiveness.

After serving seventeen more years in prison, he visited Maria's mother and asked for her mercy. She gave it willingly, saying, "If my daughter forgave you, who am I to withhold it?” He became a porter and gardener at a Capuchin monastery, a job he held for the rest of his life.

On June 24, 1950, Pope Pius XII canonized Maria Goretti as the youngest saint at the time. It was the first time in its history that St. Peter’s Basilica - the largest church in the world - couldn’t be used for a Canonization Mass.

Among the half million souls at the open-air ceremony in St. Peter’s Square, 66-year-old, ex-con, Alessandro Serenelli, sobbed tears of joy.

Before he died in 1970, Alessandro wrote an open letter to the public stating: “Saint Maria Goretti was my good Angel, sent to me through Providence to guide and save me. I still have impressed upon my heart her words of rebuke and pardon.”

The feast of St. Maria Goretti is celebrated annually by Roman Catholics worldwide on July 6th. She’s the Patron Saint of chastity, rape victims, youth, poverty, purity, and forgiveness.

Saint Maria, look kindly at those who’ve strayed from the path of eternal salvation. Free us from evil temptations, comfort our sorrows, and guide us, that one day we might enjoy the enduring glory of Heaven with you. Amen

Wednesday, June 18, 2025

Better Than Revenge

 “We gain redemption by His blood, through the riches of His grace." ~ Ephesians 1:7

When 11-year-old Abram witnessed his Mom’s violent murder while walking their dog, the love that had been inside him from birth melted away. Caught in the crossfire of a gang-related hit, she’d taken three 38-caliber bullets and died on the street like a common garden weed.

Hatred set in immediately. She would never see him graduate, never see him get married, or have children. It’s not right for a child to bury his parent. “I wanted the killer dead in the most painful way possible,” he admitted.

But after months of investigation, the crime remained unsolved. A murderer remained at large, avoiding a possible life sentence without parole. Abram headed down a self-destructive path of alcohol, drugs, and crime, seeking love stolen from him by his Mom’s assassin.

Absent a suspect, he could only dream of retaliation - collecting guns, knives, and even a pipe bomb. It would be ten years before his emotional torture would end when his friend Jahmir encouraged him to attend a Bible study that he was leading on forgiveness.

Initially skeptical and dismissive, Abram finally accepted his buddy’s invitation. He’d grown tired of the hatred he’d been harboring that obstructed any peace of mind.

Jahmir’s message rang clear. “When hatred boils up, take the pot off the stove and open the lid. You gotta let that steam dissipate safely before it burns you,” he suggested. “Repent now for everything you’ve said and planned against the gunman. Pray for him as you pray for yourself. Every time a hateful thought enters your consciousness, say, ‘I choose to forgive.’’’

Over time and with practice, Abram felt the resentment, anger, and hostility release their emotional burden. He’d taken the first steps in letting go of hatred by replacing it with mercy and forgiveness.

Jahmir, too, sensed a change in his friend. When he was certain that Abram had indeed forgiven his mother’s murderer, he confessed to him: “It was my brother, Jaylen, who accidentally shot your Mom. Like many young fools, he’d been lured into a gang by false promises. He’d like to apologize for what he did.”

Abram stood dumbstruck by the admission. “Yes, I’d like that,” he whispered.

In Abram’s presence, a deflated Jaylen broke down in tears, confirming his guilt - no words needed to be spoken.

Abram embraced him, raining a further torrent of tears off Jaylen’s cheeks. “From the bottom of my heart, Jaylen, I forgive you,” he said. Instantly, Abram felt the remaining fragments of bitterness, animosity, and junk he’d carried around for over a decade disappear, wiped away by Jesus’ blood.

“Man,” Jalen uttered through wailing gasps, “how… why would you do that?”

Abram said, “Because of Who is in me. Through His grace, there lies an opening for transformation.”

Forgiving Lord, I kneel before You, admitting my sins and seeking Your forgiveness. Help me forgive those who have wronged me, as resentment harms me more than it does them. Cleanse my heart from all that taints it. Amen

Friday, May 9, 2025

Forgive Me?

 “Forgive one another, just as God has forgiven you." ~ Ephesians 4:32

Samuel had just stepped away from the podium, recounting the tragic story that had taken the lives of his wife and two children nearly 20 years earlier. He’d shared the painful details of their final hour with the local chapter of MADD (Mothers Against Drunk Driving®).

His wife Etta waited to turn left from the highway’s center lane when an oversized GM Suburban rear-ended her, pushing her Ford Escort into oncoming traffic. The vehicle then struck several oncoming vehicles. In all, four vehicles were totaled almost beyond recognition.

Etta and their son, Tyrone, died instantly. Alex, their youngest son, was ejected from the car into a nearby drainage ditch. Witnesses rushed to the unconscious 7-year-old and remained with him until EMTs raced him to the hospital. He later died from multiple injuries.

Uninjured, the Suburban’s driver was charged with three counts of second-degree murder. At a news conference, the police chief revealed that his blood alcohol level was 4 times the legal limit, the highest ever recorded in the precinct.

Part of Samuel died that same day. His best friend, co-parent, bowling partner, and fellow traveler was gone in an instant. The emptiness of losing his two boys still left him angry and depressed.

Opportunities to share the crime’s impact upon himself, his friends, and the community offered some temporary relief from repressed emotions. For the offenders present in the crowd as part of their sentences, it emphasized that driving drunk was a choice that impacts many innocent people.

Just then, he recognized the man working his way forward as others left the auditorium. The man who’d destroyed his life had been released after serving 18 years of his 20-year prison sentence. He stopped directly in front of Samuel and extended a trembling hand.

“Can you forgive me?” he asked in a quavering voice.

The murderer could've stood there for seconds with his hand outstretched. To Samuel, it felt like hours while he wrestled with what to do next.

God’s forgiveness has one prior condition. To be forgiven ourselves, we must first forgive those who’ve injured us (Matthew 6:14).

Yet, he stood silent as bitterness gripped his heart. But forgiveness takes deliberate action; free will can function regardless of the heart’s temperature.

"Jesus, help me!" Samuel prayed silently. “I’ll lift my hand if you supply the genuine emotion."

Mechanically, Samuel offered his hand to be shaken. As he did, something incredible happened. The current started in his brain, raced down his arm, and sprang into their coupled hands. Tears flowed as a healing warmth flooded Samuel’s body.

"I forgive you, brother!" Samuel wept. "With all my heart!"

They hugged for a long moment, an embrace that bonded their souls forever. Never had Samuel felt God’s love so intensely before.

Lord, forgive those who’ve hurt me. Free me from the bitterness and anger, knowing that forgiveness is a gift You give to me. Teach me to find understanding and compassion for their actions and heal the pain that’s crippling them. Amen

Friday, April 18, 2025

The Penitent Robber

 Jesus, remember me when you come in Your kingly power” ~ Luke 23:43

By all assumptions, he wasn’t a man of faith; certainly not somebody who lived a virtuous life. He was one of two unnamed bandits in Luke's account of Jesus’ crucifixion. Little is known about him, though tradition often refers to him as ‘Dysmas,’ adopted from a Greek word meaning “sunset” or “death.” In the eyes of Roman law, he was a violent criminal.

Dysmas probably hid in caves near the road from Jericho to Jerusalem and robbed travelers by force. The fact that he was crucified alongside Jesus suggests the armed bandit brutalized and perhaps murdered some of his victims before stealing from them. He made a living by coercion and violence.

Death by crucifixion was designed to be excruciatingly slow and painful, often taking hours or even days. Death resulted from asphyxiation, blood loss, or shock.

The gruesome execution method was reserved for the most heinous criminals. The brutality and public display of crucifixion were meant to cause severe humiliation and serve as a deterrent for future criminal wannabes.

That day on Calvary, three would die. The villain to Jesus’s left mocked Him, saying, “If You are the Christ, save Yourself and us.” (Luke 23:39). Dysmas on Jesus' right, chided his fellow thief, conceding: “We deserve to die for our crimes, but this man has done nothing wrong" (Luke 23:40-41).

In a remarkable display of faith, Dysmas turned to Jesus and said, "Jesus, remember me when You come into Your kingdom!" (Luke 23:42). We don’t know why Dysmas changed his mind about Jesus. But while dying, he honestly acknowledged his wrongdoings and asked forgiveness, seeking Jesus as the source of eternal life.

Jesus replied with a promise of salvation, saying, “I assure you, today you will be with me in Paradise.” (Luke 23:43). His words illustrate the power of repentance and the immediacy of God's grace, grace that was given freely through faith and not earned by Dysmas’ works.

The story offers a vivid illustration of several biblical Truths. First, it’s never too late to turn to God.  Despite a despicable life, Dysmas’s last-minute confession secured his place in Heaven.

Second, no sin is too horrific to be forgiven. Dysmas had already received a death sentence for his sins. Yet, according to Jesus, it was forgivable.  And third, that means there’s hope for us, too.  

The Catholic Church never formally canonized St. Dysmas, though he’s regarded as a saint because Jesus declared that he would be in Paradise. His relics rest in Notre Dame’s Reliquary Chapel, including a piece of St. Dysmas’ cross. He’s known as the patron saint of Condemned Prisoners, Undertakers, and Repentant Thieves. His feast day is recognized annually on the 25th of March.

Precious Lord, we’re all like Dysmas. We’ve sinned against You and deserve Your wrath. We pray that despite our weaknesses, we may be revived by the spilled blood of Your  Son, who lives and reigns with You in the unity of the Holy Spirit. Amen

Saturday, November 30, 2024

The Next Hurrah

 “Whoever who lives and puts trust in Me will never die." ~ John 11:26

As a hospice nurse for nearly a dozen years, Laini remained confused by the concept of death. Is there life after death? Are heaven and hell real? If there is a God, what happens to nonbelievers after taking their last breath?

Death, in many ways, is a moment of truth.

Today, she sat for a few moments with Mona who, at age 54, was actively dying from inoperable cancer and drifting in and out of consciousness. She knew all too well the effects of medication and fatigue on a dying brain.

Her patient nuzzled comfortably in a bed encircled by vibrant, fragrant flowers while her family gathered back at Mona’s home. Laini considered it an honor to share this space alone at her bedside. Years of working with people nearing their final goodbye had given her a more hopeful understanding of death. She knew this woman was seeing more, not less than she was.

Suddenly, Mona shot straight up in her bed and addressed Laini sternly. Medical experts call it "terminal lucidity" or “rally.”

“Mona?” she said, pointing to an empty chair in the corner of the room. “That’s my son, Aaron. Do you see him?”

Laini nodded reassuringly, staying in the background and following Mona’s lead. The phantom guest held his Mom’s complete attention. Mona listened with a warm heart as tears ran down both cheeks.

The closer her patients came to dying, the more their eyes and spirits seemed open to a reality Laini could only discern weakly. Something he said must have touched her deeply.

“I loved you then, I love you now, and I will love you for all eternity,” she told her son tenderly. Mona bowed for a short prayer before turning to her hospice nurse. “He needed forgiveness and needed to know that I’ll love him forever,” she said with perfect lucidity.

From previous conversations, Laini knew that Aaron was in prison and could not have visited her in person. But Mona remained adamant about his presence before falling back asleep. It reminded Laini of words a colleague once shared: "A candle burns brightest just before it goes out.”

Mona passed away peacefully a few days later, comforted by the family that gathered around her.

Upon reflection, Laini saw a recurring pattern in her work. Patients near death often described not just visits from absent loved ones but an extraordinary awareness of God’s presence. She realized just how thoroughly she misunderstood death and came to understand the joy God has prepared for his children.

For Christians, death is a strange and wonderful beginning, a threshold to some new and more beautiful world. There can be no greater hope than that.

Almighty God, have compassion on the anxious sighs of those nearing death and shroud them with the peace and comfort only You can provide. Receive them into the Kingdom You’ve so graciously prepared for those who believe and trust You. Amen

Sunday, June 23, 2024

Forgiving Like Jesus

 “Forgive those who do you wrong just as He forgives us -freely and fully.” ~Matthew 6:14-15

On that fateful autumn morning, the young kindergarten teacher’s spirits soared beyond the colorful boughs defining the Georgian landscape. Brilliant shafts of sunlight caressed scarlet and gold foliage laid out like a carpet for royals.

She and her family were on their way to Callaway Gardens, where Sandra would run her first 10K race. Her anticipation surged. Each breath of the fresh air made her want to shout aloud, just to hear her voice echo as dreamed of racing among the trees.

One moment the road was there, wide open and safe. And in the next, there were screeching brakes, deafening noises, and pain that Sandra may not recover from.

She’d learn days later that an oncoming vehicle crossed the center line and hit their van head-on causing it to flip onto its roof. Eight people were hospitalized after the crash, including her husband Glen who was taken to a hospital but later removed from life support.

Tammy Matthews, the van’s driver, was uninjured. Her 16-year-old son, Joshua, died at the scene.

Sandra suffered a life-threatening brain injury which changed her life. She had to re-learn how to walk, talk, and take care of herself and two young children without her life partner. Her injuries left her unable to work or live independently.

Matthews pleaded guilty to vehicular homicide. She tearfully apologized to Sandra and the entire Walker family during the sentencing phase of her court appearance.

During her victim impact statement, Sandra spoke haltingly about her husband and faith in Christ. “He wasn't just my husband; this isn't just about me,” she began. “Others mourn his loss: my children are still waiting for their father to walk through the front door. Friends, family, and coworkers’ lives have forever been changed also.”

The enormity of her tears flowed as if the soul could bleed an ocean through the eyes.

Tammy composed herself, then addressed the accused woman. “I know you’re going through as much pain as I am. I forgive you,” she said, before approaching Mathews with a warm embrace.

Rather than feeling bitterness, Tammy encouraged the court not to sentence Matthews to prison time. She received a sentence of 36 months of probation and 500 hours of community service, that “should include acts that honor the lives of her son and Glen Walker.

We may never have to face a challenge to forgive something this great, but we all face regular opportunities to choose forgiveness over anger and bitterness. Forgiveness doesn’t mean that the offender was right or justified, or that the behavior will be allowed to continue. Instead, it admits no retaliation, no attempt to get even, and no bringing up the offense again.

“Lord, I’m choosing to forgive the way You have forgiven me. Every time the memory comes back, I’ll forgive that person again until the pain is gone. Heal my heart with Your grace.” Amen (Rick Warren)

Tuesday, March 5, 2024

Power in Forgiveness

 “Moments of tragedy provide opportunities to demonstrate grace." ~ 1 Peter 3:9

The moment Eric met his first child, he recalled thinking, “What a gift! What a miracle!” The Georgia Youth Pastor was blown by the way God used people and nature to create little humans. Now as he prepared to be a Dad for the second time, he felt that same euphoria… until his life changed tragically.

He awoke to the news that his wife’s car had been struck by a driver who fell asleep at the wheel. Faith, his then 19-month-old toddler, survived the crash. His wife died instantly in the collision along with their unborn son.

Twenty-year-old Matt, a rookie firefighter paramedic, had been heading home after completing a sleepless 24-hour shift when he drifted into oncoming traffic and hit June’s car head-on. The crash would forever bind the two men’s lives.

It’s not hard to imagine the words Eric might’ve spoken to Matt, given the chance. But contact with the defendant was prohibited while the case wound its way through the legal system.

Eventually, prosecutors approached Eric about whether he wanted them to pursue the maximum sentence against the paramedic. But the newly widowed father also recognized an opportunity to practice the grace that he often preached about.

Amid the grief, Erik pleaded for leniency so Matt could avoid prison time. A judge ordered the firefighter to only pay a fine and do community service.

The two men never spoke directly to each other again until the 2-year anniversary of June’s death. Enough time had passed for Erik to understand that the accident had been just that – a horrible and unintended consequence of Matt’s actions.

Leaving the grocery store, Eric recognized Matt and walked towards his truck. The guilt-ridden man wept as he handed Eric a condolence card he’d just purchased. Two years of crushing guilt spewed out.

They hugged - one man saving souls, the other saving bodies. They talked for hours. They became friends.

They remain close to this day, meeting regularly and often spending time together during the holidays. They credit that chance meeting in a parking lot as the key to letting them both heal from the loss and pain.

They view their relationship as a blessing from God, a feeling cemented recently when Pastor Erik welcomed another child into his life with a new bride. Their baby was born on the same due date as the unborn child he and his first wife had been expecting.

Whenever we’re confronted with a choice between forgiveness or resentment, we’re given the option to experience life’s beauty or the horror of death. By holding on to anger, bitterness, and even hatred, we close ourselves off to God’s mercy and grace. Yet by forgiving, we help another receive that healing grace as well!

Father God, please forgive me when I allow anger and bitterness to fill my heart because I refuse to forgive someone who has hurt me. Teach me how to set aside my pride and to forgive in the same way You have forgiven me. Amen

Saturday, October 21, 2023

"Love That Forgives"

“If you forgive others their sins, your Father will also forgive you. " ~ Matthew 6:15

Hope was in the air a half-century ago, coming off the “March on Washington” in late August of 1963. Momentum was rising… unfortunately on BOTH sides.

At Birmingham’s 16th Street Baptist Church, the city’s oldest and largest black church, preparations were underway for Youth Sunday. A tradition in Baptist churches, young people would lead the worship service. The boys sported dark pants and white shirts, and the girls wore white dresses and carefully primped for this special day.

Shortly before the service began, Klansmen detonated 19 sticks of dynamite under the church’s staircase. The explosion ripped through the ladies' lounge, reducing the church to rubble, mangling cars in the parking lot, and echoing through the community as if it were the anguished cry of God. The horrific blast even blew Jesus’ face off a stained-glass window.

Barehanded, workers dug deep into the rubble until the lifeless bodies of four young girls were discovered. (Note: In the resulting unrest, two black teenagers were also gunned down later that day.) 

Pastor John Cross, hurried up and down the sidewalk, urging the milling crowd to go home. “Please go home!” he pleaded. “The Lord is our shepherd, and we shall not want.” Another suggested: “Pray for the men who did this evil deed. “We must have love in our hearts for them.”

Ironically, Youth Sunday’s theme was “Love That Forgives.” The Sunday School lesson (Genesis 45:4-15), was to focus on how Joseph forgave his brothers after they sold him into slavery.

Pastor Cross’ Sermon was going to be from Luke 23:34 where, from the cross, Jesus asked God to forgive those crucifying him. It was never delivered, but here is the written text of a portion of it:

“In order to be forgiven, we must forgive. Forgiveness sets both the captor and the captive free. The Word of God clearly states that if we do not forgive others their trespasses, He cannot forgive us our trespasses.

Today, let us purpose in our heart to forgive those who have hurt or harmed us as we set them free so that we may move forward to fulfill the call that God has on our lives.”

In the aftermath of that fateful day on September 15, 1963, the city and our nation took a hard look at itself in order to reckon with the unconscionable effects of hate and racism.

Outrage over the death of the four young girls helped build increased support behind the continuing struggle to end segregation - support that would help lead to the passage of both the Civil Rights Act of 1964 and the Voting Rights Act of 1965. In that important sense, the bombing’s impact was exactly the opposite of what its perpetrators had intended.

Dear Lord, thank You for loving and forgiving me. Help me to build and rebuild my friendships by forgiving others and accepting forgiveness. I am Your child. We are all Your children. Amen ~ The Children’s Sermon Prayer 1963

Friday, August 11, 2023

Full Circle

 “Your body is a Temple, use every part of it to give glory back to God." ~ Corinthians 6:19-20

Her downward spiral came quickly. After scripts for postsurgical pain ran out, the single mother of two began buying pills off the street. The next thing Joy knew she was shooting heroin and living under parked cars for safety. She lost her electrician job, her car, her friends, and the custody of her children.

Arrested multiple times for possession, theft, and fraudulent use of credit cards, local police knew her well. They treated her with contempt; as if she was worthless.

But there was one cop who saw through her unsightly appearance and always treated her respectfully. Even through the haze of addiction, Joy saw something different in Officer Terry’s eyes – a kindness, empathy, and hope that she desperately needed.

While serving a six-month sentence in the county jail, addiction stalked her like a ravenous beast. She finally reached a breaking point, given a blunt choice between life and death. It was there, as part of the jail ministry, that Joy had a profound conversion to Christ and found the strength to get clean for the first time in many years.

After her release, Joy moved in with her Mom, restored relationships with her kids, and worked two jobs. She also found time to visit that same jail where she counseled other women battling addiction, encouraging their spiritual growth and teaching clean-life skills. In time, she began her own nonprofit, The Place of Grace Center, a recovery program for women.

The story’s not over – Divine Providence was about to move her a second time.

She read online that Terry, the same officer who treated her with such kindness years earlier while incarcerated, was battling kidney disease and urgently needed a donor kidney for survival. She felt a powerful urge to be tested, ignoring the odds and self-doubt about her candidacy given her many years of self-abuse.

She simply couldn’t deny God’s nudging.

Just as amazing as her willingness to donate, blood work proved Joy to be a match. The operation went smoothly and her kidney began functioning for Terry immediately. It was no coincidence!

Their lives continue to be closely commingled.

Her life has come full circle. She’s newly married, sober, and busy with the Grace Center. Terry retired from the police force and enjoys excellent health again. He considers Joy another daughter. They talk daily by phone and she stops by his house for coffee 2-3 times a week.

Both are saving lives – offering kindness, compassion, and hope to others when they may have none for themselves. Perhaps Terry says it best: “We all have a purpose for our lives. Ours is to lead others to Christ and encourage their recovery.” Three cheers to you both!

Dear Lord, show me how the desires You’ve planted in my heart can grow into a greater purpose for my life. Lead me toward activities that bring clarity and validation of what I’m being called to fulfill for Your glory. Amen

Thursday, May 18, 2023

"Nearer My God to Thee"

 “Jesus comforts us when we suffer. In turn, we are called comfort others.” ~ 2 Corinthians 1:3-4

Frigid Arctic cold seeped into her car as she waited for her son while he attended his mandated Narcotics Anonymous meeting at the nearby church. Jenny worried that he might ditch the meeting if she didn’t hang around.

Anxious and restless, Jenny tried to read her book. These next 90 minutes could be the final trauma that broke Luke as he struggled with sobriety.

Parents are responsible for keeping their kids on the right path. Where had she failed? Jenny longed for someone to confide in and almost wished she could join Luke inside.

Through the frosted car windows, the church glowed like an invitation. Hoping they wouldn’t mind if she waited in the Sanctuary until the meeting ended, she opened the ornate wooden doors and slipped quietly into a back pew.

Celestial voices softened her anxieties as a choir sang “Nearer My God to Thee.” It expressed the aim of every Christian to draw closer to God. Powerful, yet soothing and reassuring.

When the practice ended, choir members gathered up front sharing testimonials of God’s work in their lives. Their everyday miracles moved Jenny to tears. A peace, that she hadn’t felt since Luke’s addiction surfaced, washed over her.

She wiped the tears and stood to leave. Time to face the cold reality awaiting outside. “What bought you here tonight?” one of them asked.

“I’m just waiting for my son downstairs,” she offered, not needing to explain what that meant.

“I’ll pray for his healing,” a woman said, resting her hand on Jenny’s shoulder. “You aren’t alone in this,” said another. Other members joined the circle, offering encouragement and empathy.

Suddenly Jenny realized that the glow she’d seen from her car hadn’t come from lights but from the radiant hearts of the strangers surrounding her.

She stepped back into the cold and spotted her son standing next to the car and hurried to him. Before she could speak, Luke hugged her. She saw in his eyes the same sense of hope and renewal that reflected from her own.

On the ride home, Luke explained how hard he’d been trying to heal, and how worried he was about being a new father. Jenny told him how much she loved him, and that she’d always be his Mom and grandmother to his baby.

They talked about the angels they’d both met that night and the inner peace they’d rendered; an affection reminding them they weren’t alone no matter how much healing remained.

Even when we can’t see or feel Him, the Lord never leaves our side. As we walk through each day, let’s remember to call upon Him and always give thanks.

Lord, nourish my spirit with Your presence and fill me with the treasures of Your wisdom and knowledge. Light up my heart with Your words of love and give me the strength to seek You daily. Show me the way to everlasting life. Amen

Tuesday, March 28, 2023

Balloon From Heaven

 “Anyone who puts his trust in Me will never die." ~ John 11:26

Almost every year since Ashley’s Dad died of a brain aneurysm, she’d written him a letter on a mylar balloon on his birthday. Releasing a “balloon-a-gram” skyward was something her Mom, who’d also lost her father at a young age, suggested the teen do in order to help her cope with her waves of grief.

She loved watching it float into the heavens and disappear. It felt like a weight had been suddenly lifted off her chest, praying that he’d receive it.

Its message covered everything she wanted him to know – how she’d started at a new school and had made the varsity softball team. She explained that she would attend a college in Northern California after graduation to study psychology.

She apologized (again), for missing his last phone call. The night before her dad died, she saw a call from her Dad and didn't pick up. 
She couldn’t fix that now but pleaded with him for a sign that he’s forgiven her. She closed by telling him that she loved him, and missed him like crazy.

This year, Ashley got an almost-immediate response.

The next day, in the parking lot of a restaurant 436 miles away, a customer picked up a star-shaped, deflated balloon covered with writing. He picked up what he thought was litter, but quickly realized he’d stumbled upon something much greater.

He started reading and fighting back tears.  Between “Dear Dad” and “I love You” was a very private and personal letter of sadness and guilt.  

After sharing it with Lisa, the restaurant’s owner, they decided to reach out to the young girl. Ashley had signed her full name on heaven’s letter so it was easy to find her online.

Lisa also started a pay-it-forward page she followed on Facebook and asked people to contribute and got an instant, heartwarming response. Inspired by the story, members of the page sent cards and small gifts to Ashley as a show of support for losing a parent.

The overwhelming response was just the sign Ashley needed. “I believe he’s telling me he loves me, to forgive easily (including myself), and not to get down on myself," she confided. 

Ashley said Lisa’s unexpected kindness shows that her father still has an important presence in her life. “His message was that you can impact others’ lives by doing small things.”

In Mitch Albom’s book “The Five People You Meet in Heaven,” Eddie expected to meet family and friends who passed away before his own death. Instead, he met people who almost seemed trivial and irrelevant. Each of them tried to help Eddie understand that events in our life that seem to have no significant consequence can end up being the most important moments of our lives. 

Father God, every life on earth is indeed serving a purpose. Keep reminding us that even while living what we might consider an unimportant life, we are all interconnected and part of Your bigger plan and purpose. Amen

Sunday, March 5, 2023

Siding With Hobbs

 “If your hand causes you to sin, cut it off." ~ Matthew 5:30

Suzie was just like any other nervous five-year-old on her first day of school. Who could have guessed the amount of strength and courage she would need to face these kids every day for the next six years? Just because Suzie had red hair didn’t make her less of a person.

Her friend Jessica was ashamed to admit it, but she went along with the bullying. Even though she didn’t participate in the verbal slander, the incessant seat kicking, or the stuff in her hair, she didn’t do anything to stop it.  

Jessica knew it was wrong, but thought Suzie was coping; it didn’t seem to bother her. But appearances mean nothing. Jessica was as guilty as the rest of them.

The teachers wouldn’t do anything, telling them would only make the situation worse, she rationalized. Only Jessica had the power to stop it. She should’ve been the one to protect her.

Kids acting up on the school bus isn’t anything new and it’s certainly not unique. As younger generations are exposed to more explicit language and intolerant behavior, bullying has become a growing issue for many.

Jessica didn’t know exactly when she finally admitted it to herself. Maybe when Suzie confessed to her that she’d gone home crying almost every afternoon. Or maybe it crystalized when, just like Calvin, she confessed that she wanted to do anything but own up to her inaction.

They’d become best friends. But with age, our capacity for logic and reasoning expands. As does our ability to rationalize inaction (not to pick scabs) and weasel out of making amends.

“I must apologize!” she finally confessed, “and make amends.”

Three days after she’d said those words, she wished so badly she could have seen the future. To stop Suzie from getting in that car with him after he’d been drinking too much.

Tears sprang to her eyes as she read Suzie’s name for the first time in stone. She touched the cold granite, running her hand across the engraved name and then the dates, the last one being three days after the last time she’d ever hear her friend’s voice again. Three days after she’d promised the words she was never able to apologize for.

Tears of guilt and sadness flowed freely down her cheeks and onto the ground as she knelt down next to her. “Hey Suzie,” she started, words catching in her throat.  She took a deep breath before she continued. “I’m so sorry I wasn’t there for you.”

If you hurt someone, don’t be like Calvin. Don’t hesitate and rationalize your awful behavior. Take a cue from both Hobbes and Jesus: say you’re sorry and take the necessary action so as not to make that same mistake again!

Lord, we know You aren’t suggesting that we maim ourselves for God’s glory, but using hyperbole to emphasize the need for us to be radically honest with ourselves. Give us the strength to apologize for any action or inaction that hurts others. Amen


Thursday, December 22, 2022

Merry Christmas Eve

 “Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace, goodwill toward all.” ~ Luke 2:14

The old man busied himself behind the 7-11’s counter on a lonely Christmas Eve. He’d worked most holidays since his wife Martha passed away. It was just another day to him and just couldn’t find a reason to celebrate.

Pete gazed out at snow that’d been falling for the last hour when an agitated man burst in waving a pistol and demanding all the cash. His trembling hand suggested he’d probably never attempted anything like this before.

“Son, don't do this,” Pete said calmly. “Put the gun down before someone gets hurt.”

The thief looked confused. “Shut up or... or I’ll shoot you. Give me the cash, now!”

“It’s Christmas if you need money, here …” He pulled several twenties out of his pocket and handed them over, simultaneously reaching for the barrel of the gun. “It ain’t much but it’s all I got.”

Releasing his grip on the gun, the man fell to his knees and wept. “I’m terrible at this, aren’t I? All I wanted was to buy something for my wife and son. I lost my job, the rent’s due, and my car got repossessed last week.”

Pete helped the young man to his feet. “We all do dumb things sometimes,” Pete began. “That’s what makes us human.” He motioned toward the chair behind the counter, and said,” Sit there and relax while we sort things out.”

Just then a police car rolled up and two officers got out. They entered the store for fresh cups of hot java.  “Everything OK tonight, Pete,” one asked. “Who’s your new assistant?”

The young man froze. “Just hired him this morning,” Pete answered.

After the officers left, the young man looked up and asked almost inaudibly, “Why?”

Before answering, Pete went into the back room and returned with a box. He pulled out a ring box. “Here’s something for your bride. Martha wouldn’t mind; she knew it’d come in handy someday.”

I can’t take this,” said the young man. “It means something to you.”

“And now it means something to you,” replied Pete. “I got my memories. That’s all I need.”

Pete reached into the box again. An airplane, a car, and a truck appeared next. They were toys that the store owner had left for him to sell. “Here’s something for that little man of yours.”

When to man offered the money Pete had handed him earlier, Pete replied, “Keep it, go home and buy a lovely Christmas dinner for your family.”

The man turned, his tears exposing an honest soul: "l be here in the morning to work if that job offer’s still good.”

“Nope. I’m closed Christmas day,” Pete said. “See ya the day after, Merry Christmas.”

Holy Father, giver of all good things. We know that giving gifts is one way we show our love for each other. Let these gifts we share also remind us of the greatest gift of love you have given to us, your son Jesus Christ our Savior. Amen.