“Strength is for
service, not status. Look after the good
of those around you." ~ Romans 15:12
It’s not easy being cheerful in a
cold, hard world. It hurts when others
criticize our looks or behavior. Harsh
words and negative comments can lead to depression and a loss of self-esteem. But
Jordan planned to fight this negativity.
In a city famous for its cranky neighbors and rude citizens, she randomly
complimented 10 different people every day.
Her strategy was both authentic and purposeful - compliments
are the easiest way to make other people feel noticed. When a kind thought comes to mind, most people
keep it to themselves. But to Jordan, the
power of flattery was unstoppable. Something
as simple as an act of approval could impact someone immeasurably.
Today, when taking an Uber, she complimented the driver, “Despite
the traffic, I admire the way you remain so calm!” When she passed the garbage collector, she
praised his effort, “Thank you for working so hard!” When riding up in her building’s elevator, she
admired a woman’s baby, “What a cutie, she seems so comfortable in your arms.”
Gracefully accepting a compliment is an almost universal challenge. Rather than humbly accepting unsolicited praise, some will smile awkwardly, others often attempt to deflect or dilute the compliment.
“I’m sorry,” she said.
“Were you speaking to me?”
“I was," Jordan replied.
“How did you come up with such an amazing outfit? Those colors look great on you; the hat’s
perfect!"
A smiled gushed as wide as her face. The young woman beamed, "Oh, thank you! I recently broke up with my boyfriend and was
praying for a sign on whether I should stay in this neighborhood or move to an
area closer to my Mom. When you
mentioned my favorite fedora, I got my answer."
Jordan would never know for sure of her final decision to
stay or leave. Their friendly exchange
was exactly what the woman needed at exactly the right time. Mentioning her hat was the key. Had it not been specific, the experience and
outcome, may’ve been different.
Jordan had underrated compliments her entire life. But moments like these reinforced their value
to others and echoed how easily given they can be given.
Open your eyes, look around and become aware of others. Try to notice how people look, what they do
and how they act. The opportunities are
boundless. They bring smiles to people’s
faces and brighten their lives temporarily.
So, don’t be shy. Be
authentic and specific, not hyperbolic: "Keep It Sincere and
Specific."
